Four Tips For Creating Healthy Relationships

Healthy relationships require a lot of effort. It’s important to do things that make your partner feel seen, safe, and appreciated. In the spirit of living our best love lives, here are four helpful tips for fostering that loving feeling!


1. Surprise Them With Their Favourite Treat! 

If you ever find yourself with time to kill near your partner’s place of work, you can’t go wrong procuring their favorite treat and surprising them with it! If your boo happens to be busy when you arrive, just write a loving note and leave the donut/cupcake/cheesesteak in question with a colleague to present to your partner when they’re free. There’s nothing cuter than delivering sweets to your sweetie (No, I can’t resist a bad pun).

2. Do Their Chores For Them (On Occasion)

Now don’t misunderstand me, please! I’m not recommending you make a habit of picking up your partner’s slack. In a healthy relationship, you and your squeeze should split the housework as much as possible. However, if your SO is nursing a cold or enduring a never-ending work crisis, it’s nice to take some tasks off their plate. My husband is pretty accomplished in the art of domestic drudgery. Most weeks, he does the grocery shopping and the majority of the cooking. But this summer, when I was in the midst of managing work and first-trimester morning sickness, he took on extra chores that are usually mine. He did little things, like taking out the garbage or buying ginger ale to ease my nausea. And you know what? Even that made a huge difference.

3. Ask About Their Fantasies

Asking about your partner’s sexual fantasies helps keep things fresh. When it comes to furthering physical intimacy, there’s no substitute for communication. Inquiring about what turns your partner on – and what naughty ideas they may be imagining – demonstrates you care about your lover’s desires. Having said that, you shouldn’t feel pressured to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. Instead, start an open and honest conversation about what the both of you want in bed, identifying overlap wherever possible. The end result should be a reciprocally satisfying sex life…

4. Know When To Give Them Space

One of the best ways to demonstrate you love someone is by not smothering them. Sensing your partner could use some alone time, or maybe a night out with friends? Then encourage them to ditch you for an evening! I know it’s hard to admit we’re not always the answer to our partner’s problems, but caring enough to create healthy boundaries is a wonderful way to demonstrate you’re feeling committed and confident and confident in your relationship. As Christina Aguilera once said, “If you love something, let it go…”

Sarah Sahagian

Sarah Sahagian

Sarah Sahagian is a feminist writer based in Toronto. Her byline has appeared in such publications as Elle Canada, Flare, Bitch Media, The Toronto Star, and The National Post. She is also the co-host of You Do You: A Dating Podcast. Sarah holds a master’s degree in Gender Studies from The London School of Economics. You can find her on Twitter, where she posts about politics and live-tweets The Bachelor

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