Four Of The Best Books About Modern Dating

Tired of worrying about things like whether to text the person you’re dating? Why not read a text about dating instead! One of the best ways to educate ourselves on something is to read up on it. That’s why we’ve assembled a list of our favourite books on courtship.

The titles on this list were selected because they’re both educational and relatable. Whether you’re sick of flirty DMs that go nowhere or interested in learning more about polyamory, these tomes will enlighten you. But most importantly, all the authors assembled appreciate this, romance is freaking hard! So don’t worry, you’re not alone if dating baffles the bejesus out of you! These books will make you feel seen.

Validate Me: A Life of Code-dependency, Charly Cox

Validate Me is perhaps the most millennial book ever released about dating. Don’t believe me? Here’s the premise: writer and social media bon vivant Charly Cox’s latest book is a collection of prose and poetry written entirely on her phone. From disappointing text exchanges to feeling awkward at parties, Cox captures modern dating woes in all their gory glory. Funny – and sometimes sad – Validate Me is a perfect snapshot of dating in the digital age.

It’s Not You: 27 (Wrong Reasons) You’re Single, Sara Eckel

Sick of people insisting you’re too picky/too independent/your self-esteem is too low? Well, Sara Eckel wrote a book just for you! Using both sociology and psychology, Eckel refutes popular misconceptions about unattached people. It’s an empowering tome that proves partner-less people are not broken! You may want to purchase a copy for your Uncle Roger to read in advance of the holidays.

The Ethical Slut , Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory – Janet W. Hardy

The Ethical Slut is a cult classic. Designed to introduce both couples and singles to the world of ethical polyamory, the book explores how to be a respectful partner to someone who is also involved with other people. Hardy’s book demonstrates how those who bristle against traditional relationship structures can find meaningful and deep emotional connections outside the confines of monogamy. If you’re curious about polyamory, The Ethical Slut is an invaluable resource.

The Curious History of Dating: From Jane Austen to Tinder, Nichi Hodgson

Ever wonder if dating was always this dysfunctional? Well, journalist Nichi Hodgson’s history of dating illustrates how even the heroines of Regency England suffered for love – just in a different way than we do today. Witty and well researched, this book is an educational look at how dating has always been a bit weird. So pour yourself a cup of tea and learn all about the wacky world of dating throughout history!

Sarah Sahagian

Sarah Sahagian

Sarah Sahagian is a feminist writer based in Toronto. Her byline has appeared in such publications as Elle Canada, Flare, Bitch Media, The Toronto Star, and The National Post. She is also the co-host of You Do You: A Dating Podcast. Sarah holds a master’s degree in Gender Studies from The London School of Economics. You can find her on Twitter, where she posts about politics and live-tweets The Bachelor