Our #WCW this week is the incredible Audrey Kitching. You likely became familiar with Audrey and her signature pink hair when she began her career as a model – a career launched during the “Scene Queen” craze back when MySpace ruled all of our lives. These days you could hardly classify this woman with one simple title: she’s a style icon, a designer, a crystal worker, energy healer, and a total trailblazer. Her latest project is a jewelry and lifestyle brand, Crystal Cactus, which works to combine fashion and style with conscious living and spirituality. We asked Audrey a few questions about dating, and you’ll definitely want to pay attention to her advice.
What is the first thing that you notice about a potential love interest?
True personality, who they are when no one else is around. That’s what I’m interested in, not the person all your friends think you are.
Who would you want to have make the first move?
I think that’s hard to say, I like to live in the moment. Whatever feels right. I’m not one for boundaries or special rules, every situation is it’s own. You can’t fit everything into one box.
What is your ideal first date?
Something like walking around a graveyard at night, going to an observatory, exploring Chinatown…I’m not your typical movie and dinner kinda girl. Those things don’t really interest me, I want to have adventures and make memories. I also just like being – sitting somewhere and doing nothing but enjoying the company of the other person.
What’s your instant deal breaker?
Not having a real connection. I’m not interested in dating because I need affection or attention from guys. I know a lot of girls who always have to have a guy around to feel worthy. I don’t understand why people would waste their time or energy, to be honest. I will wear beautiful lingerie and go to bed alone and feel perfectly worthy of myself. I don’t need admiration without substance, I’m just not interested in anything that isn’t real.
Who do you go to for dating advice?
My own gut instinct and intuition, which sounds silly – but I’m not big on dating to be honest. I have never casually gone on dates. I don’t know if I have ever been on a date, not sure what it qualifies as technically! I don’t do one night stands or dinner with someone who wants to get to know me. Dating is a strange subcategory of my existence. I have had serious relationships that mostly were learning experiences and lessons. My advice to other girls is don’t settle. Don’t be so scared of your own aloneness – not to be confused with loneliness – that you wake up one day and you’re 45 in a marriage without any magic and love.
Photo credit: Ally Lindsay