Yes, I am single and I may just stay that way forever.
I’m not saying I don’t believe in relationships, or that I am opposed to love, since neither are the case. But here the reasons that I am single so maybe people can stop asking me things like “how can such an attractive guy like you be single?” or “don’t you get lonely?” or “are you just going to play the field forever?” and my favorite “how can you really be happy single?”
Well to the shock of all you people that ask such completely ridiculous and moronic question Yes, I am happy, and this is Why I’m single:
WORK LIFE: While I have always been open to someone special coming into my life, a very hectic schedule and balancing 3 companies and my own brand brings its own challenges. Think of it this way: there are 168 hours in a week, and while a lot of people on average work 40 hours per week, that leaves them 128 hours for the rest of life and to get some sleep. I have chosen to take on a lot of work and thus work about 100 hours a week, and sleep about 49 hours. That leaves 19 hours each week. When you take away time to shower, clean, eat, excercise and all that other crap, I have about 6 hours of free time a week. That’s not a lot of time to waste going on dates with people I’m not even sure I like, or will ever see again. So in my case, my relationships are with my business partners and my children are our companies.
ALL SORTS OF “NOT FOR ME”: While I meet a lot of people, some really great, some not so much, due to the pace of the life I live it’s not that often that I really get the time to sit down with people and really get to know them on a deeper level. While sometimes I may like to, in a lot of cases, I’d probably rather just pass.
THE GREAT LOVE: While I haven’t really had much luck on this front, which I will address next, my parents have been happily married and crazy in love for almost 45 years. When recently talking to my dad he said, “I’m more in love with your mother today than I was the day I asked her to marry me” (gawd they are adorable). So until I can start feeling that way toward someone who is so wonderful that I make the time, I’m just going to keep focused on what I can control in life.
PAST RELATIONSHIPS: It probably goes without saying that we have all had bad relationships. Partly due to my colorful past, I can’t really say that I have ever had a healthy, happy, and lasting relationship. And while I did really love one of them, the good that came out of all of it was I learned a lot about myself, which brings me to my next point.
WHEN DID BEING SINGLE BECOME SAD: I’m not sure when we decided they being single was the same as being un-happy or unfufilled. Lets be honest here, I know a lot of people in relationships who aren’t even close to being happy, so why is it that they want you to be in one too? Maybe misery loves company? The thing that I do know is if you are not happy with yourself, if you don’t love who you are, if you don’t respect yourself for who you are and if you’re not proud of what you have accomplished, how will anyone else do any of these things? HHHHHMMMMM?
So as I sit and write this article, of which I could go on for days and days, I go back to the title which is where I will stand firm, but with an open heart and mind and say; “YES I’m Single and you better be fucking amazing to change that”.