Everyone seems to think they’ve cracked the code to finding that special someone. That goes double for those who have ostensibly found said special someone. If you’re a single person, such as myself, chances are you’ve been told what you need to do and where you need to go to find your own “special”. And if you’re an adventurous human, like myself, chances are you’ve tried some or all of these methods, and chances are they may have worked at any given time. And hey, even if you’re not looking for that special someone, who doesn’t love an adventure where you can meet someone new, have some fun, and maybe, who knows, that someone may turn out to be a special after all! There may not be a single “best” way to meet someone, but here are a few ways that have proven successful for many love seekers out there.
At a Bar/club/public social space with cocktails
Pro: Chances are anyone you meet in a bar will at least have one interest in common with you: DRINKING! If you’re me, that’s very important.
Con: You have the wost luck in the world and you meet the one person who doesn’t like drinking, or worse, only drinks premade cocktails that come in a can. Never trust anyone who doesn’t drink by choice, or only drinks Palm Bay, or worse Rev.
Pro: You’ll almost always have someone to go to lunch with. And sometimes, if you’re lucky, you can, well, get lucky instead of eat. Another win? You know for a fact this person is gainfully employed. That’s a win in anybody’s book (if it’s not in yours then you need more guidance than I can provide muffin).
Con: Depending on where you work, and who you work with, this may be breaking the rules. Depending on who you are, you may not be into that. Also depending on who you are, you may be VERY into that. Just try not to get laid off just for getting laid.
Pro: It’s like online shopping, but for dates! There’s no easier way to click or swipe your way through a veritable catalogue of potential lovers and, if you’re lucky, loves. You’ll have access to people you may never have had a chance to meet in the course of your everyday life, so your odds are vastly improved through sheer numbers alone.
Con: When all you have to go on is an artfully cropped and filtered set of photos and a few carefully (or not) edited bio lines, the potential for duplicity and disappointment are rife. Also, it’s hard to tell if you can get it up for someone from just a few pictures.
Through friends/a set up
Pro: Since your friends know you, know what you like, and have personally been witnesses to the trainwreck past that is otherwise known as your love life, they would hopefuly take all of those things into consideration when setting you up with someone. They may see something in that individual that you may be too close/too biased to see. And since they’re your friends, they have your best interests at heart and want you to be happy, or, barring that, laid on the regular.
Con: It turns out the friend(s) that set you up either have no idea what you like or want in a significant other, or choose to ignore your likes/wants in favor of doing what they think is best for you. This scenario would cause all manner of drama and annoyance, and in the end probably a few crappy dates that you would have to waste your time with so as not to insult not only you set up-ee but your friends as well.
While on vacation
Pro: Being in a different town/city/country/hemisphere opens you up to a whole new dating pool. You’ll get the chance to meet someone you never may have come across back home, and who knows where that may lead. New looks, accents, and the potential of getting wooed in a foreign language are all enticements when you’re romancing in a new time zone. The best part? Vacation sex. Bonus points if it’s hotel sex!
Con: Anything you start with someone you meet abroad will either end up as a vacation only thing, or a long distance relationship. Potential sadness, hurt feelings and huge challenges abound with both scenarios, and it takes a lot of hard work, trust and respect to keep something like that going. Enter into these situations with caution, and firm in the knowledge that the person you’re entering the situation with is as committed as you are, and is worth the time, effort and risk of heartbreak.
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