We have all heard the stories of people who met one day, a week later fell “in love”, a month later got engaged, 3 months later got married. These are the types of people that say things like “When you know, you just know!”
While some may roll their eyes, for most of my life I have filed that under “to each their own”. My parents, the best example of a relationship I’d ever seen, had dated for years, had a long engagement and have now been happily married for over four decades, almost 5.
I myself spent 5 years with the same person and not until the second year did I say “I love you” and 2 years later moved in together. That relationship ended several years back now, but recently I have started asking myself the question;
How, and when do you know?
Some people over my life have told me that they “slowly fell in love”, similarly to what my parents have told me, while other’s have claimed that it was “love at first sight” and they have been inseparable ever since. Is it just that some of us jump into things head first, while others need to bring some logic into it?
I was at a party recently and a woman there told me that her then boyfriend (now husband) pretty much moved in on the second date, they were engaged with in a few months and married before the second year had passed.
This, once again, made me think, doesn’t it take years to really get to know someone? And why does there seem to be such a rush to run to the altar?
At the same time, as someone who has been very much a “follow what your heart wants” in the rest of my life, I guess I can understand that when all you want to do is spend time with someone, then that’s what you are going to do.
At the end of the day all that matters is that we are all happy with the person who may understand us best, but most of all love us for exactly who we are and embraces that. We all want someone who makes every day better just by being there. So maybe regardless of how long or short of a time you have been with someone, perhaps you should ask, am I made better because of my other (perhaps new) half?
Maybe that’s where the answer to all my questions lies.
My advice from what I’ve learned is, live in the moment, plan for the future and always be open while staying true to you, cause as we know, you need to be good for you, to be good for anyone else.