Just because Valentine’s day is over doesn’t mean your search for love, fun, romance and everything in between has to come to an end. If anything this is a great time for a fresh start, and maybe even a chance to try out something new. I’ve already written about my hesitance when it comes to online dating, but I’m the first to admit that it definitely works for many people out there. We all have that friend who met their now husband or wife online and are probably one of the happiest couples you know. We had such a great time asking the experts from Just Eat.ca‘s 13 Spicy Nights before Valentine’s day, we thought we’d bring one back to help you in your search for love – the digital way.
Meet Jen Kirsch; dating blogger, columnist and romance expert for the modern age. This girl-about-town has always had a lust for helping others find love whether it’s through her writing, her great advice or her renowned matchmaking skills. We asked Jen for her thoughts on some of the tools out there that can help people find love with technology that sits right in the palm of their hands.
What type of person do you think dating apps are best suited for, and when should they use them?
Dating apps are a perfect compliment for someone who’s quite social and tends to meet potential partners when out and about. Apps such as Tinder (which is my personal fave) give people the added opportunity to meet others they wouldn’t normally meet. At a bar on a night out and no one catching your eye? Pull out your phone and scout out who’s in the area that might pique your fancy.
So you’ve taken the plunge and downloaded the app. How do you make yourself stand out among all the other profiles out there?
Upload as many images you can (make sure you use honest and recent images, apps are all about the visual aspect so show who you really are. There’s someone for everyone!) Try to show variety and personality in your images (if you love to do yoga, include a yoga pic, if you love to read, show a pic of you cuddled up on the couch.) Never upload a picture of you and a friend. There’s nothing worse than someone who stops talking to you when they realize you’re not the one they were hoping you were in the pic. And lastly, in the bio section, build intrigue by merely writing a witty one liner.
What key piece of advice can you give for someone trying out dating in this new way?
Online dating tends to be more serious, is a longer process and allows you to meet someone based on what traits and interests you’re looking for in a partner. I always tell my clients who are looking for love to join a site that costs money. When money is on the table, people are more invested. I love eHarmony and JDate, but there’s a site for everyone so do your research and find what’s best for you.