Addicted to Love? Ask Aviva: How to find romance without the apps

One question that I find myself asking a lot in this digital age of dating is HOW does one meet a potential partner without resorting to a dating app?  My experience with apps like Tinder, Bumble, etc has been less than stellar, and frankly I’m just over all of it.

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But instead of just giving up all together, I decided to reach out to an expert: matchmaker extraordinaire Aviva Reimer.  Certified by The Matchmaking institute of New York (yes that’s a real thing), Aviva is a relationship and dating expert, a life coach and a personal trainer.  Thorugh her company Perfect-Fit, she takes a very holistic approach to her work, believing that a person needs to become the best version of themselves FOR themselves, before embarking on their journey to finding a partner.

So I asked Aviva:

I’m so sick of dating apps.  What are other things I can do to meet more people and maybe even a potential partner?

Aviva: Dating apps or online dating can work, however, it’s like finding a needle In a haystack of people who don’t know where they’re going or what they want. Too many options to compete with but the possibility still exists if you have the head space and time to rifle though it all.  

We definitely have some smart choices and ways to meet someone amazing! You can be very efficient in your strategy because anything is possible. 


  1. First and foremost, and probably the most important, to be very self-aware and totally open, allowing things or people to come in to your life. When you leave the house, leave looking grea, and then decide that you’re going to be smiling at people all day with warmth and the expectation to make people feel good. This is an exercise that I coach often for people to realize their power. A person needs to be totally open and inviting with their smile and happy energy. You would be surprised how many people would like to attach themselves to somebody vibrant like that. Keep your eyes open and don’t be afraid to show somebody that you’re attracted to them in a nonthreatening, subtle, complimentary and real way… You will be surprised as to how many people you will actually attract. You can meet somebody in a supermarket, the gym, anywhere!  Just keep smiling and watch how the power comes your way!
  1. Next would be to research events in your city that you feel would attract the kind of person you wish to meet. Once you have an idea of the type of person which you see yourself with, you can check out specific professional-events or hobby-specific events to meet people. When it comes to your social life, say yes to invites! You never know who will show up and who you can meet.
  2. The most efficient way to meet somebody would be to hire a firm… A matchmaking service that potentially already has the caliber of person you’d like to meet in their database, or will do an executive search on your behalf. Your potential partner could be number 25 in someone’s database also waiting for the universe to bring them to you. The majority of firms already have prequalified candidates that will definitely be on the same page as you. You can most certainly save yourself a lot of time and energy working with the right firm or agency, and also have a lot of fun instead of frustration.


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Nadia Elkharadly

Nadia Elkharadly

Nadia Elkharadly is the Co-Founder and Managing Editor of Addicted Magazine. Her myriad of addictions include music, fashion, travel, technology, boxing and trying to make the world a better place. Nadia is also a feminist, an animal lover, and a neverending dreamer. Keep up with her on social media through @thenadiae.
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