This week we are crushing on Fallon Franklin!
Fallon Franklin began performing when she was just 12-years-old, and showed a love of music before she could even speak. She trained at the musical school of “get on stage and sing your heart out”, recorded multiple records, toured with a band for years and even earned a finalist spot on NBC’s America’s Got Talent. To say she’s a seasoned musician would be an understatement, but it’s her most recent life experience that is now shaping her sound, and her soul. And she’s recorded it all for posterity in her new album Giving up the Ghost.
Fallon credits Giving up the Ghost with saving her life, Arranged in the order in which the songs were written, Fallon brings her listeners on the very journey she went through herself, as she underwent one of the worst experiences a woman can ever endure. She survived an abusive relationship that went on for more than 20 years. Told she was worthless, cheated on (she discovered her husband’s email among the infamous Ashley Madison hacks), and betrayed in every way, Fallon poured her pain into her music, writing and composing while trying to hold herself together for her two children. It was the album that brought her to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Listening to Giving up the Ghost is a window into the world of Fallon Franklin over the past year. From the heart-ripping lyrics of “Valentine”, capturing the feeling of a woman trapped in a terrible relationship, to the haunting acapella record closer, a track which truly speaks for itself with a message of strength, survival and hope.
We got a chance to chat with the Austin resident about life, love and how she’s now navigating the world of modern dating. Good luck Fallon, you’re a rad lady who’ll never be held down and we are definitely crushing on you!
What is the first thing that you notice about a potential love interest?
The first thing I notice about a love interest is how they treat others around them. You can tell a lot about someone in how they interact with others, friends, waiters and waitresses…
I am also a sucker for a good sense of humor and someone who is self-effacing and isn’t afraid to be themselves.
What is your definition of romance?
Romance isn’t the things we see in the movies. It isn’t grand gestures. It’s helping take something off someone’s plate that you don’t want to do, but will help the other person and make their day easier. It’s a text that says you are thinking about someone. The little things. Those are the important things that add up to a grand memory of someone. You won’t remember all the flowers you’ve gotten, one day, you’ll remember all the kindness.
What is your ideal first date?
I am a talker. My degree is in psychology, so I love to know people’s stories. A patio somewhere with music in the background and a two hour convo of what makes us who we are is perfection:)
What’s your instant deal breaker?
An instant deal breaker for me is when a man doesn’t ask questions or show interest. I’ve been on dates where I’m the one leading the entire conversation. I want someone to listen to me when I talk or express something. When a guy is barely listening or focusing on everything else but me, it’s a turn off. Also, if I hear a guy has cheated on someone…nope.
If there was one piece of advice you could give to other men/women out there, what would it be?
Girls, throw away your lists. I have friends that have some check list that they want a guy to meet. It’s insane. No person is perfect and no one can possibly meet every single criteria you have. Boys, don’t hold a girl to a standard that you see on a computer or tv screen. Most Women’s bodies aren’t perfect and her body isn’t going to meet a check list of what society finds as beautiful. Find someone that makes you laugh and you can talk to because when you are old and grey, our bodies are an afterthought and what you want is someone you enjoy spending your days with. Be yourself on dates! Eventually your true self is going to come out, so why lead with someone who isn’t your authentic self to start with? The right person will be attracted to who you are.